How are people impacted by success and failure? A person’s own overall success is driven by how successful they are in reaching the goals they set for themselves. When you are successful at something, you experience a sense of pride in how formative and intelligent you were in reaching your goal.
How are people impacted by success and failure?
Yet when plans go awry or things don’t work out how we expect them to, we can go to a place of frustration and feeling “stuck.” A person’s feeling of devastation correlates to how they utilize each life experience. In this article, we will take a look at how perceived failures can be viewed as successes as long as you have the right perspective and know-how to use each opportunity.
Transforming perceived failures into successes
Many inspired speakers will frequently reference the concept of turning failures into successes and very often, their message is well-received.
Being able to turn failures around so they become successful is wonderful in theory. It would certainly mean a more successful life. But how do you tangibly achieve such a feat? The concept of turning failures into successes seems easy enough, but yet only a small number of people actually know how to do it.
The big secret is gathering and utilizing feedback
How does feedback fit into the idea of success?
What is the feedback? By definition, it is a “reaction to any type of event.” The feedback you receive is essential to your success because it shows you how and why things happen to you.
In general, people will not concern themselves with feedback because they are more focused on what someone said or did, rather than the reaction to what someone said or did. For example, when a salesperson utilizes a script to get their customers to purchase something.
Oftentimes, a salesperson will run through their entire script without listening to the customer to find out their actual need.
The customer has to wait until the salesperson finishes presenting their pitch before they can get a word in as to what they need. This can cause a lot of frustration on the part of the customer and result in a lot of missed sales for the salesperson.
Using feedback to gain insight into a setback or success
When faced with a setback don’t get frustrated or give up. Instead, use the feedback you get on the experience to plan for the next time you try to do what you set out to do. Ask yourself the following questions in order to garner feedback on any success or failure you face:
How will I know that I have succeeded in my goal?
Which of these lessons are essential to my success?
What are the things that I have learned from my last attempt?
What have I observed from my last attempt?
What have I succeeded in doing up to this point?
What do I really want to do?
As you are able to practice asking yourself these questions over time, you may even come up with new pertinent questions you can ask in order to get a more focused result. These six questions are a good starting point – specifically hitting the main points – which you should be concerned with as you collect feedback on the experiences you face.
Keep in mind too that the concept of failure is not a true state. The concept of failure is just what happens when things don’t go the way you expected. When you experience a setback, get into the habit of practicing the following steps:
E – Evaluate the outcome.
A – Assess the feedback.
T – Try again.
Don’t give up, you should just E.A.T.!
Using feedback in communication
Communicating without expecting feedback would be pointless. People communicate with the expectation that they will receive some kind of response or reaction.
That said, not every person engaged in dialogue is focused or concerned about feedback. Just as with the salesperson more concerned with getting their sales pitch out than they are with customer needs, an individual who is more about communicating their own message than they are about what is being communicated by both parties, will also face setbacks.
When you’re in a conversation with someone else and you are tasked with persuading or influencing them, don’t be so caught up in getting your own message out that you miss the input from both parties. You will be more effective as a communicator when you are willing to have a real conversation – taking into account the other person’s position as well as your own.
Understand what the person you’re talking to is trying to tell you and you’ll get a full picture of your impact or influence on them. The person you’re talking to should be at the center of the conversation. Focus on them and you will be able to determine their level of resistance, then you will be able to better deliver your input.
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Get into the habit of active listening. It can help you achieve a “subject-centered” focus.
In actively listening to the other person, you can focus on the verbal and nonverbal cues from them. As you interact with them you learn from them and can utilize the new information you gain to adopt a mutually beneficial stance. Then you will be able to, in the end, successfully accomplish everything you want to accomplish.